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Being a good houseguest

Sunday, May 18th, 2014

Here’s the next column I wrote for the Middle East’s leading lifestyle magazine ‘Fatafeat’ – this time on good manners for houseguests. 

1) Allergies Upon accepting the invitation to stay, you must alert your hosts to any allergies or intolerances you may have – this can range from being gluten-free, to being deathly allergic to feather. If you do have known medical bedding-related conditions then it may be a polite thing to suggest you bring your own pillows or bedding, should your hosts not have any synthetic fibre equivalents. Failing that, invest in some allergy-proof encasements (special pillow protectors).

TIP FOR HOSTS: If you have the space and budget, keeping some hypoallergenic or fully allergy-proof bedding for sensitive guests is always a good idea. Washing bedding with non-biological washing detergent is also good practice as biological detergents can make people’s skin break out in rashes.

2) Hostess gift Never turn up empty handed if you are staying at someone’s house. If you are staying for longer than one night then your gift should reflect this.

3) Don’t be late for breakfast! I get sent many questions from hosts who are always a little annoyed when guests fail to show for breakfast. If your host says ‘would you like breakfast at 8am tomorrow?’ then it probably is not a proper question, more of a rhetorical one. This means you show up just before the stated time, pressed, dressed and ready to eat.

William making a bed4) Help! No one is ever too grand to offer help to the hosts, and hopefully no host will ever be too grand to continually refuse it. Ask to help set the table, or help wash or dry up after dinner. If you are staying for more than four days, you should not expect your hosts to foot the bill for all meals. Instead, offer to cook (and buy the ingredients) or, better still, invite them out to a local restaurant as your guests.

5) Damage If you break it, you pay for it. Simple! Although some hosts will graciously decline your offer to remunerate them for the cracked vase, or irrecoverably stained towel, your gesture should be noted and appreciated.

6) Offering to strip the bed When you leave, thoughtful guests will ask whether they should strip the bed before leaving – regardless of who the guest is, or how many staff the house has. Good hosts will never dream of asking guests to do this, but should appreciate the offer of help. And it goes without saying that you should leave the room tidy.

7) Guest expectations Don’t expect your hosts to entertain you all day, all night. You should have your own itinerary planned and ideally spend at least one day totally out of the house to give your hosts time to breathe and get on with any jobs or chores that have been left untouched since your arrival. It is the rare houseguest that realises how much effort good hosts put in to looking after them.

TIP FOR HOSTS: Have a selection of flyers of local tourist attractions, a list of good restaurants, nearby shops, and a map of the area easily to hand – even pop it discreetly in your guests’ room.

8) Tipping staff If you are staying in a house with staff, especially staff that have been looking after you and your room, then in many houses it is the done thing to leave a tip for them when you leave. Ask your hostess whether this is all right and if so, what amount she suggests.

9) Two-sided thank you letter Once you are back in your own house, the writing paper and fountain pen should come out for you to write your thank you letter. For overnight stays, two sides is the key. One-sided letters are for thanking for presents and dinners.

10) Reciprocal hospitality I always say, never stay with people who you would not want to come and stay at your own house. Guests need to be prepared to play hosts whenever the time comes. Upon departure, make it clear to your hosts that you are more than happy to have them come to stay whenever they like.

Adventures with Gino & Mel

Friday, August 9th, 2013

Let's Do Lunch logoIt was with great joy that I was asked back this year as a regular to ITV’s summer food & entertainment show ‘Let’s Do Lunch with Gino & Mel’.  I appeared first on the show last summer as a one-off challenger for Gino, where I gave him the task of having afternoon tea correctly.  The lovely executive producer Sharon Powers (great name, great lady) then asked if I could come back and so we did Royal dining and then a turn for 2012’s Christmas run.

I returned in episode three of the third series to give Gino & Mel a lesson in wedding etiquette in the part of the programme where the male host is ‘challenged’.  The piece we did on weddings is probably my favourite having now completed the series.  We ended up doing one more than was originally planned, the penultimate one I did was on dating etiquette and that happened quite last minute as the show’s item about pickled eggs fell through and so I was called 24 hours before to ask if we could piece something together for the next day’s show.

Everyone at Let’s Do Lunch is so lovely – I really couldn’t have asked to work with more charming, accommodating and tolerating people.

Many have asked me what happens behind the scenes, so I felt a short blog may help.

9.30 – I arrive at London Studios and am shown to my perfectly decent dressing room, although it is lacking a window.  Watch 10 mins of Jeremy Kyle and get terribly depressed at what I see on that show

Abi and I find a solution to my hair loss

Abi and I find a solution to my hair loss

9.40 – The darling makeup artist Abi arrives and trowels on the makeup, generally insults me, I insult her, we laugh, I scream as she puts in eyedrops to make any redness vanish

9.50 – The assistant producer comes into the dressing room and goes through the item with me

10.10 – Makeup done, I then hang about or go and meet my friend who works in the building but on another show



11.00 – Part 3 rehearsal.   I go into studio 3 to rehearse the item.  Mel & Gino have always asked never to hear my replies as they wish to ‘learn whilst the viewer does’ so Melanie asks me the questions, I reply with ‘blah, blah, blah’ (literally) and the director rehearses the shots

11.20 – I go upstairs to dressing room to find my costume has been brought back from wardrobe after being beautifully pressed.  Most of it is my own stuff but there are occasional borrows from wardrobe.  I change into costume

11.30 – I sit in studio café downstairs (as it has windows and natural light) and go over the facts I am to say

12.30 – Show goes live and I wait outside studio chatting to the lovely studio’s nurse, the lovely runners, assistant floor manager, and anyone else who passes

Being 'touched up' (a TV term)

Being ‘touched up’ (a TV term)

12.55 – I am taken into the studio and take my position.  Karl the fab audience warm-up act usually waves to me and says generally nice things about me to the audience

13.00 – Part 3 is live and chaos ensues as I try to teach Gino about weddings, restaurant dining, Chinese dining, dating decorum, or Royal Christenings

13.10 – Part 3 is over and I go back to dressing room and change

13.20 – I get in the car and am away

Although the live shows are finished, we have just pre-recorded two slots for the two-week Christmas spin-off series (‘Let’s Do Christmas’) which airs at the end of the year.  As for what those entail, you will have to wait and see, but below is a clue for one of the instalments.

A Royal Christmas

A Royal Christmas

Finally, everyone keeps asking me on Twitter whether I like Gino/Gino likes me.  Firstly, Melanie is really, really lovely and is incredibly good at what she does – especially having to cope with the verbiage between her male host and me.  As for that million dollar question about Gino and me… 😉

Partners in crime

Partners in crime

Etiquette villain of the week: Oxfam

Thursday, September 6th, 2012

Before I begin, I should just say that I was thinking of running a similar feature alongside this one called ‘Etiquette hero of the week’ but sadly – and this is indicative of the times in which we now live – I was struggling to find one. I will, naturally, post Etiquette heroes as and when I find them – perchance this blog may turn into a boring whine.

This week’s villain of the week goes to the Oxfam Emporium on Oldham Street in Manchester. I haven’t been to a charity shop in central Manchester before – indeed, they seem to be few and far between – but someone in the Farrow & Ball shop suggested Oxfam in the Northern Quarter. So off I trotted.

Oxfam Emporium, Manchester

Oxfam Emporium, Oldham Street, Manchester

Upon arrival I dropped off what must have been £200+ worth of books I no longer required. You would think that the assistant/volunteer would have thanked me for donating my cast-offs, but no.

I unloaded from the the heavy-duty bag – the assistant looked through a few of them; I finished, looked up, said thank you (why was I saying thank you?), and the girl replied “bye”.

Not a word of gratitude! Clearly Oxfam have got enough donations and so we can all stop donating as evidently they’d rather not receive anything.

Charity does not begin on Oldham Street!