It has to be said, the 29th April 2011 will be a day I do not forget – and for all the right reasons. Apart from the beauty of the pomp and circumstance of the day’s proceedings, it was the atmosphere of the nation, especially those who had travelled to London, which really got me. We rarely have national events that bring us together with such elegance and precision. One homemade banner I saw on The Mall on the Thursday evening read ‘Don’t expect the Olympics to be this good’.
I was lucky enough to be in London that week to do media engagements, as being an etiquette and protocol consultant this event was like a big birthday present crossed with exam time. Weird people like me who make it their business to examine human behavior, etiquette, customs and protocol will have noticed a few things that went wrong. Some things went wrong because there was not enough planning, some because of nerves of people concerned on the day, and others down to a few select guests’ lack of research or political motivations.
This blog post has been a long-time coming, but I have finally found time to give a brief overview of a few things that went wrong, intentionally or unintentionally. I will point out now, however, that these tiny (in most cases) mistakes may not have been visible to the ‘untrained’ eye and did not spoil the marvelous event for me in any way shape or form.
SamCam and the Wayward Wardrobe
The Prime Minister of Great Britain’s wife, Samantha Cameron, was wearing a fetching emerald green dress, which would have looked so much better with a hat. Indeed, etiquette dictates that with morning dress (one of the dress codes for the Wedding) hats are worn by the women. As the wife of the Prime Minister, and so theoretically representing the women of the country, she should have been sporting one. The argument from Downing Street was that she wore jewels (emeralds) in her hair instead. But this is still not correct form. Unfortunately, Mrs. Cameron made another error by choosing not to wear tights. With formal dress codes, women are expected to wear tights or stockings.
Photo below.
David Beckham and the Moveable Medal
As a friend of Prince William, and a premier footballer, David Beckham and his wife, Victoria, were obviously invited to the wedding. Beckham turned up in morning suit, which surprised me as (truth be told) I thought he’d opt for a lounge suit. It may have been designed by Polo Ralph Lauren, but the collar was winged, which is incorrect for morning dress (but correct for White Tie – worn for very formal evening affairs: state dinners, etc). He also chose to wear his OBE, an honour given to him by The Queen a few years ago. He entered the Abbey with it hanging from his right lapel, but medals should be worn on the left lapel. HOWEVER… correct lapel or not, he shouldn’t have been wearing it at all as morning dress does not stipulate medals. Only with White Tie should medals be worn. Beckham did switch his medal to the left lapel once inside the church, but he should have removed it all together.
Photo below.
Buttoned Up
Mr. Middleton’s morning jacket was fastened, which is incorrect for morning dress. Buttons should remain unfastened.
Photo below.
To Bow or Not To Bow?
When Kate Middleton walked up the aisle of Westminster Abbey, protocol states that one curtsies or bows when you reach The Queen. Dear Kate forgot to do this when arriving. Previous Royal brides have all done this, as well as curtseying when leaving (which Kate did do). I put this down to nerves. She did have a couple of billion people watching her every move, so I think we can let her off.
The Queen’s Car Door
When Her Majesty and the Duke of Edinburgh arrived at the Abbey, a soldier opened the car door on the road side, at the same time another soldier opened the pavement side door. The former footman was wrong as the door should never be opened onto the road (even though in this case the road was closed and car-free). Had Her Majesty, who always sits behind the driver when with her husband, got out of the car on the side of the road she’d have had to walk around the car to get to the entrance of the Abbey. All very clumsy. Although I doubt anything was done in this case to the soldier, ten years ago this would have been a very serious offence indeed.
Photo below.
Watch Your Step, Ma’am
When The Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh were getting into the carriage to take them from the Abbey back to Buckingham Palace, there should have been a footman on the roadside of said carriage to balance the carriage. There was not and as such the carriage almost tipped over as the Duke was trying to embark. No such mistake was made when the Queen and Duke arrived at the Palace; a footman promptly used a stabilizing weight to stop the carriage from tipping.
Photo below.
- Mrs. Cameron arriving at Westminster Abbey
- David Beckham with medal
- Mr. Middleton outside Abbey
- The Queen arriving at Westminster Abbey
- The DofE trying to get in the carriage














Thoroughly Modern Monarchy
Saturday, December 4th, 2010I was overjoyed when I heard that Prince William was to marry Kate Middleton: mainly as I happened to be in London at the time, which meant I was able to do a round of interviews for various media outlets on the subject, but also I was happy for the couple themselves.
You can’t meet a more pro-Royal than I, but during the day of the announcement I began to think about the future of the Monarchy with Prince William (or even Charles) at the helm.
Her Majesty does not give interviews, and microphones are never placed near Her unless it is for a direct message to her subjects (the Christmas address, for example). By banning microphones one is rarely privy to Her Majesty’s conversation or speech. To me, this helps maintain the mystique of Monarchy. Similarly, The Queen has never given an interview for publication to anyone in Her life – an air of mystery is created. However Princes Charles and William have given many interviews in their time as heirs to the throne; the latter has even been ‘interrogated’ (and I use that word lightly) by Fearne Cotton. I agree that once Her Majesty has died (and I hope that is not any time soon) we should have a more modern Monarchy (and by that I do not mean that Princess Beatrice starts detailing the contents of Her fridge in the back of Heat) but if the Monarchy and its mechanics are revealed and opened up too much then it will become nothing more than a glorified Big Brother. And when – no, if – that happens then most of the pull factor for tourists will be lost.
When I was in London the other week I was standing outside Buckingham Palace and in-between filming (I was doing a piece for Canadian television on the Changing of the Guard… thank you, God…) I started chatting with some tourists from New Zealand. They were desperately hoping to see The Queen, they told me. Now, I could have told them there and then that the chances of seeing Her Majesty – or any Royal – was slim. But if we imagine my worst nightmare of a Monarchy where Beatrice is in Heat, will we see the then King coming out at certain set times of the day to sign autographs and have His grinning picture taken by camera phones? The tourists will not find the Monarchy so appealing as it will descend into nothing more than a red carpet farce. And so, the tourists will not come and the British economy will not be injected with the much-needed revenue that it gets from all their visits.
Now, please do not get me wrong – my sole argument for having a Monarchy is not that it is jolly nice for the tourists. But it is one of them. Monarchy should be detached and remote. The Royal Family aren’t like you and me (mainly you) and never will be, and never should be expected to be. Those who fuss about the ‘great expense’ to the taxpayer are bonkers: I do not know what the figure for how much the Monarchy costs each person is exactly but it is something like 20p per year. Do people actually think they will be better off with an extra 20p a year? Give me a break!
So, my message to Prince William and his future bride is (apart from many congratulations) please strongly consider any media offers or interview bids that you may get your way in the future. We need strong and powerful figureheads. The moment Kate appears on Dancing on Ice is the day I lead the march for a republic.
Tags: Big Brother, British, Buckingham Palace, Changing of the Guard, Clarence House, commentator, Dancing on Ice, danger, engagement, England, English, etiquette, expert, Heat magazine, Her Majesty, Kate Middleton, monarchy, mystery, Prince Charles, Prince William, protocol, Queen Elizabeth, royal, royal wedding, television, The Queen, UK
Posted in Etiquette & manners | 2 Comments »